You might have pulled all stops to get your ex lover back again but it looks like nothing is working. Now, you start to question is there something wrong somewhere, or maybe it's you who is wrong all along. You happen to be at a loss for words and even strategic and tactical plans to get you success, but at the end of the day, nothing succeeds. Now allow me to probably be your savior by somehow helping you get your ex back the dirtiest possible way. And you'd probably be surprised.
1. Act as if you don't care at all!
Your ex is very much in charge at the moment. She/He is on top of the game and it really hurts. You wanted to have your fair share of being in control however you just can't. why? Because you can't move on. That whatever you do or wherever you decide to go, your ex is present there regardless of how hard you try to get rid of it, nothing works. Now is the best time for that sweet revenge . Now is the time for you to take control of the situation and turn the tables around! You don't give your ex the reason to feel powerful. Now, the power is in your hands! If everyday, you try calling your ex at least 20 times in an hour, couple it with sending SMS by the minute, then stop! Stow away your phone.
Keep your phone at a place you would find it hard to get hold of. Then visit the mall, hook up with friends, or concentrate on closing that multi million dollar deal. Point of the matter is to stop being pathetic. Go have your own life. It really is easy if you just let it to be that way. It's going to be difficult for the first part, but believe me, you're going to get used to it. In no time, your ex might be the one calling you, because she/he might be missing the missed calls, missing the SMS messages. But be reminded though that the operative word here is "MIGHT". Your ex might miss you by stopping the calls and sending text messages. It could be that your ex might thank you forever for stopping. But one thing is for sure, whether this does the trick or not, you still have gained back something out of it- yourself! This is by far way better than gaining some ex back.
2. Show your ex that there is no turning back- that losing you would mean losing you forever!
People have the tendency to take people for granted. They only realize something so valuable when the person is no more within their midst. They even would believe that it is fine because if push comes to shove, there is always that second chance. Now you have to firm by saying this to your ex. Talk to him/ her in a very civil, straightforward and as- a- matter- of- factly way. Though very difficult, you have to set the ground rules. You have to let this person know that you are still in control. Tell him/ her that there is no second chance.
Tell your ex that this is it. You won't have me back. Be sure that you don't overdo this. Don't be all so proud. Just stick to the simple fact that it is what is. If your ex says s/he just needs time, then give the time. If the ex says I'm fine with that and that it will really never work, then let go.
These may seem very simple, but I know it truly is the most difficult, hardest move to make. But do not forget that nobody should cause you to be the way you are but yourself. An ex is an ex. if all else fails, there is still many fish in the sea. For all you know, you may even be asking the wrong person back!
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